Life has a funny way of connecting human beings. It could be chance encounters at a coffee shop, camaraderie in a computer game, or an interaction at a convention. We meet all types of people in our daily lives, but some people aren’t good people to spend time with. How can we mingle with positive people?
They say you are the company that you keep, or that birds of a feather flock together. If you spend the majority of your time around people who are negative, brusque, rude, and dismissive, you’ll likely start to pick up some of these characteristics. Instead, you should seek out people who have a positive, cheerful demeanour. While no one is happy ALL the time, try to hang out with people who are positive MOST of the time. You cannot have a mentally fit brain if you are constantly around whiners and complainers.
Your Brain And Negativity Is Not a Good Thing
The problem with negativity is that we are often saturated in it. When you read reviews online, how many are negative? Which ones stand out in your mind? We have many great experiences, but we don’t usually write good reviews. But bad reviews? Everyone loves to speak up!
Consider your personal life. Do you usually talk about all the great things you have going on, or do you focus on something that isn’t going your way? We seem to focus on what’s going wrong instead of all the good things. Mingling with positive people can help you focus on those fantastic things, increase performance, and stop complaining about every little problem.
Neuroticism and negative emotions tend to go hand-in-hand, along with other traits including self-consciousness, irritability, and anxiety. A recent neuroscience study hypothesised that structural variations would be present in the brains of neurotic people, especially in areas of the brain associated with threat and punishment like the medial prefrontal cortex, the hippocampus and the amygdala. Using imaging techniques, scientists discovered reduced volume in the prefrontal cortex and the posterior hippocampus.1
I always tell young girls, surround yourself with goodness. I learned early on how to get the haters out of my life.
Michelle Obama
I Increasing Performance By Improving Mental Readiness
The i4 Neuroleader™ Model supports the development of a brain-friendly culture. We can improve the performance of all the brains in an organisation to increase well-being and engagement.2 Positive effects from increased performance won’t only improve conditions at work, but in many personal aspects of life, as well.
One of the key elements of mental readiness is having confidence in yourself, and this includes having the confidence to choose positive people to be around. Ask yourself some of these questions if you are unsure about the motives of certain companions, colleagues, family members, or friends.
- Do they support you?
- Do you feel happy around them?
- Do they help you achieve your goals?
And perhaps the most difficult question of all--are YOU a positive force in the lives of those around you?
We can choose to be around people who lift us up, who are mostly positive, and who support us. Leaders who have a high state of mental fitness will make better decisions and will be more agile and receptive to change. So, avoid the negative complainers and fuel your self-development to expand the capacity of your brain to create and inspire.
