Awareness

Overcoming the Fear of Feedback

Competency: Agility
Attribute: Receptive
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    Introduction

    Benefits of Embracing Feedback

    For many people, the thought of asking for feedback stirs up anxiety and fear. The worry about receiving criticism can prevent us from seeking valuable insights that would help us grow. This fear stems from a desire to avoid discomfort and protect our self-esteem. However, avoiding feedback often means missing out on opportunities to learn and improve. Embracing feedback, even when it feels challenging, can shift your mindset, leading to personal and professional growth. 

    • Accelerated Growth:
      Feedback highlights areas for improvement that may not be immediately visible to you, allowing you to make quicker progress in your personal and professional development.

    • Increased Self-Awareness:
      Constructive feedback helps you better understand your strengths and areas of improvement, leading to a more accurate self-assessment.

    • Stronger Relationships:
      Asking for and responding to feedback can foster trust and open communication in relationships, as it shows that you value others’ opinions and are willing to grow.

    • Improved Performance:
      By addressing the areas highlighted through feedback, you become more effective and efficient in your tasks, improving your overall performance.

    • Resilience:
      Learning to handle feedback builds emotional resilience, helping you develop a growth mindset where challenges are seen as learning opportunities.

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    Self-Paced Coaching Questions

    Explore Your Relationship with Feedback

    Consider these questions:

    • What emotions do you experience when you think about receiving feedback?
    • Do you often avoid asking for feedback out of fear of criticism or judgment?
    • Can you think of a time when constructive feedback helped me improve?
    • How do you typically react to both positive and negative feedback?
    • What could you gain if you actively sought feedback in areas where you want to improve?

    These questions will help you identify any fears or hesitations and open the door to a mindset more accepting of feedback.

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    Strategies

    Overcome the Fear of Feedback

    • Shift Your Perspective on Criticism

      One of the most powerful ways to overcome the fear of feedback is to reframe how you view criticism. Instead of seeing it as an attack on your abilities or worth, view it as a tool for growth. 

    • Start Small and Build Confidence
      Begin by asking for feedback in low-stakes situations where you feel more comfortable. This could be from a trusted friend or colleague in areas where you feel secure. Starting small allows you to get used to the process of receiving feedback without feeling overwhelmed.

    • Ask for Specific Feedback
      Vague feedback can feel more daunting because it leaves room for uncertainty and misinterpretation. To avoid this, ask for specific feedback related to a particular task or area of focus. For example, instead of saying, "What do you think of my work?", ask, "How can I improve my communication in meetings?" This not only makes feedback easier to receive but also ensures you get actionable insights that you can implement.

    Overcoming the fear of feedback is a process that requires a shift in mindset and a willingness to embrace discomfort for the sake of growth. Ultimately, learning to welcome feedback with an open mind leads to accelerated growth, deeper self-awareness and stronger relationships. By embracing feedback, you transform challenges into opportunities, paving the way for continuous improvement and success.

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    Bibliography

    This article has been inspired by the following sources: 

    • Stone, D., & Heen, S. (2014). Thanks for the feedback: The science and art of receiving feedback well. Penguin Books.
    • Cavanagh, M., & Lane, D. (2012). Coaching and feedback: The role of critical reflection. In M. Neenan & S. Palmer (Eds.), Cognitive behavioural coaching in practice (pp. 189-202). Routledge.
    • Hattie, J., & Timperley, H. (2007). The power of feedback. Review of Educational Research,